Words are incredibly powerful. Our inner talk can have a dramatic effect on the quality of our life. If we constantly tell ourselves that we are stupid, ugly, useless, eventually, we start acting accordingly in the world. If our inner talk convinces us that we are powerful beyond measure then that’s what we normally project out into the world.
But how do we go about changing our thought patterns?
Being hard on that voice saying nasty things, ignoring it, or shutting it out is not likely to make it go away. If anything, it’ll fuel its efforts to get our attention, so the voice will get louder. We need to watch our thoughts carefully. Getting ourselves familiar with our negative thoughts and uncovering underlying beliefs is potentially a life-changer.
For example, a few days ago, I mentioned about my intention to offer 1:1 work to help women to free their voice in life and in writing. Although there is a strong desire and impulse to act, I noticed recurring thoughts that actually I didn’t want to help other women. Then men with writing blocks started showing up. I decided to do some inner work. And what I uncovered was a belief that if I help other women, I was likely to put them in danger. They would become bigger in the world and attract negative attention to themselves. To be safe, we women had to stay small. Now, without changing those beliefs there was no chance whatsoever for me to offer 1:1 work to women. Why would I deliberately put other women in danger?! As soon as I cleared these unconscious beliefs, I ran into a woman who mentioned straightaway that she was on a mission to find her voice.
So, changing beliefs does not have to be a long and drawn out process. Watch your negative thoughts, uncover underlying unhealthy beliefs, do the inner work to change them and your external reality will transform.
And that’s the gist of my 1:1 offering to the world. I believe there is no such thing as the writer’s block or stage fright. There are, however, unconscious beliefs about the danger of exposure, fear of success or failure, issues around self-worth, etc. Although potentially useful, writing prompts and exercises to break a block deal with symptoms. Clear out underlying causes of your block and the world is your oyster.
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”