Listening with Compassion Heals

IMG_4189In my 1:1 sessions with women, I use various tools to help them access and free their authentic voice, such as the Non-Personal Awareness and the Compassion Key. Although simple, those techniques are immensely powerful. They gently dissolve energetic blocks which may hold us back, block our creative flow and, as a result, cause painful emotions.

Although I love my toolkit, by far the most important aspect of my sessions is compassionate listening.

When I start a session with a woman, I invite her to speak for 10 minutes about what troubles her. While she speaks, I do not interrupt. Being witnessed with an open heart and without judgment can be healing in its own right.

When I listen without a need to respond, my mind does not busy itself with formulating an answer. I can be fully present to her in the moment.

When I listen with compassion, I stand a witness to her words. I tune into the energy of those words. Usually, when a word carries a strong charge, I get goose bumps around my right shoulder. I note down those words in order to facilitate a gentle release, using the techniques I mentioned above.

We feel heard when someone listens to us with compassion. Compassionate listening is at the heart of any transformation we can facilitate.

6 thoughts on “Listening with Compassion Heals

    • Thank you, Susan. It’s interesting, I have no difficulty in offering it to others, but I am learning how to cultivate the same level of loving compassion listening in. It’s a completely different ballgame then 🙂

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  1. What a beautiful way to start a 1:1. I found the same thing as a doctor, although I couldn’t always wait 10 minutes before I spoke, but I waited until there was the sense of a pause or a natural close, before I said anything.
    I know exactly what you mean about being fully present, and you get a sense of when someone is really listening to you, or when they’re just listening to analyse, or to judge, or for whatever reason we listen to others’ stories.
    I’m sure you’re terrific at your job, Gulara. x

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    • Thank you for your kind words, Louise. It’s so rewarding to see how people light up when they are truly heard. In my university job, I’ve been a welfare tutor for several years. And listening to students’ grievances, I truly noticed that giving them that quality attention solved half of the problem. I imagine the same is true of your patients, no doubt. Thank you for commenting. x

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  2. I love the idea of a 10 minute “free speak” (for lack of a better way to describe it). What an empowering way to start. I would think not interrupting must be difficult, but part of what makes it effective.

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    • ‘Free speak’ is a perfect way to describe it 🙂 it’s not difficult actually. Once I set the intention, it becomes rather effortless. Thank you so much for commenting, Louise.

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