Are You Willing to be Seen and Heard through your Blog?

IMG_7392Earlier this week, I published a post about my experience of growing the audience for my blog. I offered seven tips which worked for me.

Although learning from others can be useful, have you noticed that taking action that worked for others may not always produce the results you hoped for? While practical action is essential, sometimes the reason we struggle to grow is because unconsciously we are hiding. That fear of being seen and heard can stifle our creativity and hold us back.

To clear the blocks, I use the power of self-directed compassion. It’s fairly simple. You bring your attention to your heart centre and solar plexus, and say the statements I recorded for you (I also listed them below). Some may resonate, some may not. There’s no harm in saying them because these are not affirmations. They simply help to clear any inner blocks.

Are you ready?

If you prefer to read the statements yourself, please, take a moment to ground yourself. Feel your feet on the floor, shake off any tension you may be holding in your body. Take a nice comfortable breath in and sigh it out. Focus on your heart centre and solar plexus, imagine giving yourself your warm heart-energy, and say each phrase out loud:

    • I’m so sorry that you are playing small sometimes.
    • I’m so sorry that you are hiding out.
    • I’m so sorry that you fear you’ve got nothing worthwhile to say.
    • I’m so sorry that you haven’t found your people.
    • I’m so sorry that reaching more people is difficult.
    • I’m so sorry that you don’t always know where to look for the right people.
    • I’m so sorry that you don’t have a huge following.
    • I’m so sorry that you are comparing yourself unfavourably to others.
    • I’m so sorry that you are sad.
    • I’m so sorry that it’s so difficult to keep going at times.
    • I’m so sorry that you are scared and lost.
    • I’m so sorry that you forgot why you started blogging in the first place.
    • I’m so sorry that it turned into a chore and took joy out of it.
    • I’m so sorry that you had little success with guest posts and hashtags.
    • I’m so sorry that you don’t promote yourself more.
    • I’m so sorry that you haven’t got enough time to connect with other bloggers.
    • I’m so sorry that you feel guilty for neglecting some connections.
    • I’m so sorry that you are not always consistent
    • I’m so sorry that it’s hard to keep a steady pace
    • I’m so sorry that you don’t post on a regular basis.
    • I’m so sorry that you haven’t got enough time to follow other bloggers.
    • I’m so sorry that you are lost in your blogging.
    • I’m so sorry that you are not always motivated to write.
    • I’m so sorry that you have no control over who reads your writing.
    • I’m so sorry that you are scared of attracting the wrong people.

Nice deep breath. Bring your attention back to your body. Have a nice stretch and a glass of water.

How do you feel after saying those statements? Any resonance? Please, let me know.

19 thoughts on “Are You Willing to be Seen and Heard through your Blog?

  1. Gulara, I think the statements would resonate with me, except I’m emotionally and physically so fried from dealing with my husband’s illnesses that I don’t have time for the comments to soak in. However, for me, my biggest problem is my own mindset. I never saw myself as a writer. I only wanted to tell the story of my brother and my friends talked me into creating the blog. Part of me wants to keep it for the challenge to grow me; and the other part of me thinks it is a worthless effort. But as I mentioned I have a LOT riding on my shoulders right now. Hugs!

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    • I’m so sorry you’ve got so much on, Gwynn, my heart goes out to you. It’s a lot to cope with. Looking after John is no small task. As to the mindset, I think many of us feel that way. I used to say: I’m not a writer, I just write 🙂 Eventually, I examined that statement I realised well, who is a writer? The person who writes… Me, I guess? 🙂
      But at any rate, I don’t think you give yourself credit for what you’ve accomplished: you’ve published stories, wrote your brother’s story on your blog, connect and stay in touch with a vibrant community of writers. And I agree whole-heartedly, your blog keeps you growing. Just look at what you accomplished in April!
      Anyway, I go on today 🙂 On a different note, I’d like to offer a couple of compassion phrases just for you. I hope they help, though no pressure to do this:
      Bring your attention to your heart centre and solar plexus, take a deep breath and sigh it out. And then say these phrases imagining warm heart energy going towards your whole being:
      – I’m so sorry you’ve got a lot riding on your shoulders;
      – I’m so sorry the weight feels unbearable;
      – I’m so sorry you are overwhelmed;
      – I’m so sorry you are sad;
      – I’m so sorry you are emotionally and physically fried;
      – I’m so sorry you have no time for yourself;
      – I’m so sorry you don’t see yourself as a writer;
      – I’m so sorry you can’t change your mindset;
      – I’m so sorry you wanted to tell your brother’s story but writing a book felt too daunting;
      – I’m so sorry you didn’t have enough detail about his life to write that book;
      – I’m so sorry you are disappointed about that;
      – I’m so sorry the desire to write a book about him brought you this far, but now you feel lost;
      – I’m so sorry you fear that blogging is a worthless effort;
      – I’m so sorry blogging challenges you to grow, but also takes up your energy;
      – I’m so sorry there’s a split inside of you and you are not sure whether to keep going or to abandon blogging;
      – I’m so sorry it’s all so complicated.

      I hope these phrases bring some relief. They are not affirmations; you simply give compassion to your being for whatever you feel, think or experience. I hope this is OK. If not, I’m happy to delete the comment, just give me a shout. With much love, Gulara

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      • Gulara, I truly appreciate you and your compassion. Thank you. Your kind words mean a great deal to me. Most of my friends are published book authors, so I compare myself to that…. that’s where I get myself into trouble. I do need to change my mindset and be kind to myself… also continue to work at growing. I guess I have fallen in a hole again…so I need to get busy and look around for my ladder so I can climb out. Thank you for your support. BIG, BIG HUGS!! Gwynn

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      • We all compare ourselves, Gwynn, usually unfavourably. 🙂 Take a good care, you need a lot of kindness to yourself right now. Sending big hugs! Always with love, Gulara

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  2. What a wonderful way to share a recording with us. It was delightful to hear your voice and share these thoughts with you. I’ll have to bookmark this post to return to it. It will be easy enough to incorporate it into daily practice.

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    • Thank you so much, Norah, your feedback means the world to me. I was so nervous about posting the recording. Something about being heard was truly scary. So thank you again for your support.
      In relation to this post: the beauty of the compassion key is there’s no need to repeat these phrases over and over. Once you’ve done them, they’ll clear any blocks. The way I see it is like this: our soul is shining its light at all times. A metaphor that works for me is it’s a like a projector; sometimes there’s a bit of distortion because the lens of the projector may have a smudge of something. Self-directed compassion clears it and our soul’s light shines without any distortions in its way.
      Having said that it’s great to use this tool daily with whatever comes up. There were two things that were bothering me today; I spent 5 minutes giving myself compassion and it feels like something dissolved in my chest and the worry is gone.
      Oh, and I’m planning to make recordings weekly, on different topics. Let’s see how it goes 🙂

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      • Thank you for the additional guidance, Gulara. It’s a lovely way of looking at life and light. I’m pleased you were able to look upon yourself with compassion and dissipate the worry.
        I look forward to your weekly recordings. What a fabulous idea! 🙂

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  3. I had been saving this in my inbox until I had a moment to read it and I’m so glad I did. Yes – much of this resonates with me – sometimes at different times. Compassion with yourself – and then having the courage to say and be who you want to be in your writing – I think that’s my goal.

    Thanks for sharing this – I’ll go have a read of the first post now.

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    • Aw, thank you, Louise, your words mean a lot. I’m glad the post was useful. I’m incorporating compassion into my weekly posts now, and I’m simply loving the transformative effect it can offer. Have a wonderful week-end.

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