Compassion Time


Sophie, a talented writer I had a privilege of working with recently, wrote a blog post about her experience of the Compassion Key, a technique I used in my 1:1 sessions with her. The link to her post is here.

Also, earlier this week, I wrote a post about a value in aiming high. As I was reading through the comments, I was reminded of one of my favourite quotes from Marianne Williamson.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

So, in case there’s a part of you which holds back and scared of your own greatness, I prepared a list of Compassion phrases. As I mentioned in my previous posts, these are not affirmations. The purpose of these statements is to dissolve any blocks and unhealthy patterns, if any. If you say a phrase and there’s no resonance, that’s OK. There’s no harm in giving yourself compassion.

Would you join me for a short healing meditation?


If you prefer to read the statements, please take a couple of breaths to ground yourself, bring your attention to your heart-centre and solar plexus, and give yourself warm heart energy, while reading out the statements (preferably out loud).

  • I’m so sorry you hold back sometimes
  • I’m so sorry that aiming high creates so much pressure
  • I’m so sorry you are frightened of your own dreams
  • I’m so sorry you are anxious that you may fail
  • I’m so sorry dealing with failure is so uncomfortable
  • I’m so sorry that aiming high is a constant anxiety-producing goal
  • I’m so sorry that your ego feels bruised when you are rejected
  • I’m so sorry it’s so hard to take rejections
  • I’m so sorry you feel depressed sometimes when you realise that your dreams may be harder to achieve than you anticipated
  • I’m so sorry that a perfectionist in you aims high in terms of the quality and leaves you  dissatisfied with what you do
  • I’m so sorry you forget to take pride in many things that you have achieved in life.

That’s it for now. Take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth; bring your attention to your feet on the ground; and have a glass of water as soon as possible.

So, how was it? Let me know below, please.

24 thoughts on “Compassion Time

  1. The last one hits home for me. Sometimes I forget just how far I’ve come in life, especially having just been accepted to graduate school. I hear my friends and family talking about me to others saying ‘oh yeah. She just got back from her trip to Japan and is getting ready for grad school.’ And I hear that and think ‘who are they talking about? That can’t be me. I didn’t do any of those things.’ It’s really hard accepting that I have made some accomplishments and rather than patting myself on the back and being happy, I ignore the accomplishment and move on to whatever the next step is. It causes me to always feel like I’m getting nowhere. I hope that this mentality will change in the next few years. I’m hoping to be able to be proud of my achievements, rather than try to push them aside and always be humble. Thank you for these statements, Gulara. You’ve really been helping me in this month leading up to grad school. ^.^

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    • First of all, Melanie, how amazing is that! Japan followed by a grad school. Just wow – well done you. Secondly, it doesn’t have to be this way. It feels like there’s a certain inner tension: from one hand there’s a drive and desire to achieve a lot and to shine; but on the other hand there seems to be belief that you need to push them aside and be humble. Patterns like this often form in our childhood and it doesn’t even have to be a ‘big’ trauma. For example, a child comes home and waves a painting s/he made at kindergarten. Adults don’t have time to pay attention and say something to the effect that ‘OK, calm down, don’t show off.’ In that moment, a child may make a conclusion that there’s something wrong with taking pride in what you do. And then, it keeps playing out throughout our lives, often unnecessarily, causing pain, because deep down that child is still hurting. But here’s the good news – when we acknowledge that pain and give ourselves compassion, it shifts and transforms effortlessly. You don’t need to wait for a couple of years to change this pattern. Here’s an exercise you may want to try: Take a piece of paper, and write down: If I take pride in my accomplishments, I…. (and then without thinking or editing complete this sentence at least 20 times. If you get stuck, just say I don’t know and keep digging deep. Whatever comes up, you then give yourself compassion for. For example, let’s say you wrote: I may be judged. You say: I’m so sorry you fear you may be judged. Drop me a line at if you want to continue this conversation. So glad the recent posts have been helpful.xx

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      • Thank you, Gulara, for all your kind words and support. I am hoping that the next few changes in my life will help me take pride in what I do because I’ll be the sole purpose I get somewhere or accomplish something. ^.^ I don’t mind it being a slow progress because I want to find the balance between pride and humility. That’s the key, in my opinion. ^.^

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    • #LinkYourLife is an amazing hub and brings together wonderful people. Thank you to you and Shareen for all the efforts to support this community. Glad you like the practice.


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  3. Thank you, Gulara. I missed this one when it was posted, but I needed to read it tonight so the timing is perfect for me. Having just launched my website this week, I am feeling a mix of emotions. Williamson’s quote was great for inspiration, and your statements enabled me to feel compassion for my feelings of inadequacy. Thank you. 🙂

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