Searching for Happiness? Look No Further


Earlier this week, I wrote a post about my past tendency to search for happiness and fulfilment outside of myself. The external circumstances and achievements gave me a short-lived satisfaction, but they didn’t change my inner state. It’s only through self-compassion and other forms of healing, I was able to open up to the joy and happiness that resides within. When we release the patterns which stop our light from shining out freely, we don’t even have to resort to the ‘positive’ talk. It comes naturally, because that’s our true essence.

So, if you are willing to release some of those patterns, please join me for today’s healing meditation. I’ve compiled a list of compassion phrases from the comments people made in response to my post Can Publishing a Book Make You Happy? As I mentioned in my previous posts, these statements are not affirmations. Their purpose is to dissolve any blocks and unhealthy patterns, if any. If you say a phrase and there’s no resonance, that’s OK. There’s no harm in giving yourself compassion. And if something else is coming up for you, feel free to change the words.


If you prefer to read the statements, please take a couple of breaths to ground yourself, bring your attention to your heart-centre and solar plexus, and give yourself warm heart energy, while reading out the statements (preferably out loud).

  • I’m so sorry you’ve been waiting for someone else to make you happy
  • I’m so sorry that you forgot that happiness resides within
  • I’m so sorry you accidentally disconnected from your inner joy
  • I’m so sorry that having very high expectations led to disappointment in the past
  • I’m so sorry you used the external achievements as the ‘proof’ of your self-worth
  • I’m so sorry the high of external achievements is short lived
  • I’m so sorry that completing a big project does not always bring happiness
  • I’m so sorry you forgot that the big achievement did not change those areas of your life which made you unhappy in the first place
  • I’m so sorry you are sad
  • I’m so sorry you put all your eggs in one basket
  • I’m so sorry you’ve been waiting for validation for so long
  • I’m so sorry you believed that you’ll be loved more for your accomplishments

That’s it for now. Take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth; bring your attention to your feet on the ground; and have a glass of water as soon as possible.

So, how was it? Let me know below, please.


13 thoughts on “Searching for Happiness? Look No Further

  1. Thank you, Gulara. I totally agree that happiness resides within and that we can’t expect others or things to make us happy. I find this statement to be very pertinent: I’m so sorry you forgot that the big achievement did not change those areas of your life which made you unhappy in the first place. We need to face the areas within that are causing us to feel inadequate and unhappy and change our attitude to them. It’s sometimes easier said than done, particularly when our circumstances don’t match our desires.

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    • Absolutely, Norah. I know that for myself, I became an overachiever because I wanted to feel loved. The more I achieved, the more love I expected. Needless to say, I felt disappointed time after time because I was putting my time and energy into a different area of my life and didn’t see the results I wanted. It’s a good one to pinpoint, because it can be quite elusive. Many thanks for stopping by. As always, your support is much appreciated.

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  2. Yes, I can relate to your statements as I had eight years of therapy. There I learned that the only person responsible for my happiness was me. Also, being OK with who I am does not mean I have to accomplish all these marvelous things. I exist, therefore, I am. I don’t have to have approval of others to be OK with me… that point is critical for me to remember. We are all valuable human beings the way we are. In today’s world it is hard to remember this as there always seems to be someone demanding something from us. Unrealistic expectations.

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    • So great that you have that knowing, Gwynn. “I don’t have to have approval of others to be OK with me…” This is gold. Life would be so much easier if people followed this one simple rule. As always, many thanks for reading.

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  3. I really appreciate these posts you do – I find myself slowing down to read and think about the statements both for myself and how I deal with others – the idea of both compassion for me and taking a moment to think about the frame of reference of where someone else (who is annoying me for some reason) is coming from.

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