The Joy of Completion

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When I was 7 or 8, I witnessed a scene that left a lasting impression on me. My mum was cleaning our house for about two hours. I was fairly young and not able to help yet, but old enough to appreciate how hard she worked. Sweat trickled down her temples and onto the wooden floor which she methodically wiped away with an old grey sack we used to wash the floors with. When she got to the bottom of the stairs, she stopped to take a break, leaving a bucket of dirty water and the old sack by the entrance door.

Within five minutes of her completing the task, I heard a noise in the front garden. A relative of ours showed up unannounced. Guests come without warning in Azerbaijan, and they are treated like gods. People are house-proud and it used to annoy me no end that we had to clean every day and have a stash of sweets ready just in case someone turned up without warning.

I rushed down the stairs to give this aunty a hug by the entrance door, when I glimpsed a disapproving look on her face.

‘Are we interrupting? It looks like you are cleaning the house.’

‘No,’ I said. ‘Mum has finished a couple of minutes ago.’

‘But she left this here?’ she said, her round face with pink cheeks betraying incredulity. The corners of her thin lips pressed down and the nostrils of her large nose flared. I fidgeted on the spot, realising that all my mum’s hard work of cleaning got cancelled out by her not finishing the task.

For many years to come, every time I finished cleaning the house, I remembered this aunt’s expression. However tired I felt, never once did I leave a bucket outside. At some level, I must have made a vow to never leave things unfinished; otherwise, all the work you put in simply doesn’t count.

I don’t know whether it was this incident that formed this habit in me, but I always complete what I begin. This is not to say completions come easily to me. I work hard and sometimes it takes longer than I would have liked, but I get there.

I’m pleased to say that I have two completions to report today. I’m now a certified Compassion Key facilitator. We had our celebratory call on 16 August, and now it’s official. I’m over the moon that six months of hard work and over 70 hours of practice sessions later, I’m certified!

To celebrate, I’ve prepared a new offering called ‘The Joy of Completion’. If you’ve been struggling to finish a project (a book, story, play, or just about anything you’ve begun and can’t see it through), then check it out. Our projects can be viewed as a proxy for our life. In my experience, 

unfinished business often equals an unfinished book.

I’m making introductory offers not to be missed. They are valid until 5 September. This is a very special offering because it’s in full alignment with my values. Let me help you to experience the joy of completion. Oh, and if you know someone else who could benefit from this, then please share.

https://gularavincent.com/the-joy-of-completion/

29 thoughts on “The Joy of Completion

  1. Congratulations on your certification. I will say your aunty’s expression would be permanently fixed to her face at my house. It seems my house is always in either a disaster state or an optimistic cleaning-in-process without ever quite reaching that final state of truly being clean.

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    • You made me laugh, Allie. Well, those days are long gone and my completion energy goes into other things. I’m just grateful that I live in England and no relative can turn up on my doorsteps unannounced, because I’d be long disowned by now 🙂

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  2. Congratulations on your certification, Gulara. That is awesome! Well done. And what a wonderful gift to offer your readers by way of celebration.
    I can’t say my task is completed, as it is a work in progress, but I’m very happy that today my website has launched. It has been a long time coming and I’m pleased to have brought it thus far.
    Housework is not one of my favourite tasks, and it too is always a work in progress. I’m impressed that you have memories from two years of age. My earliest are from three.

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    • Congratulations on your launch, Norah, I’m so-so pleased for you. I know it’s your love-child and the resources you offer are amazing. There’s someone in my writing group I’ve referred to your site a while ago, and there’s potentially another person who could be interested as well. I’ll be passing the message on. Good luck! As to completions, one thing I learnt is there are so many stages in the process. Launching a website is a completion of a stage and it’s worth celebrating. Completion comes in milestones. This is an important one. Enjoy!

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      • Thank you so much, Gulara. I appreciate your support. You are right. There are many stages to completion, and this stage is one that I am pleased to have reached. Onward and upward now to the next stage!

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  3. Huh. That’s an interesting story, Gulara. On the one hand, I understand it: the need to finish a task you’ve completed. However, on the other hand, I’m baffled, especially when it comes to cleaning. As I got older, I would clean around the house, but my parents never really pushed it. If I didn’t finish something, it wasn’t a big deal. It just would get done later. Then again, we weren’t the most consistent cleaners and we surely didn’t have people showing up unannounced. Though, this probably has translated into other parts of my life, especially in regards to procrastination. I was an absolute nightmare in school, waiting until the last minute for everything. However, I think I’m doing better. I’m really trying to focus on my tasks and get them done sooner rather than later, but I wonder if the ingrained idea of procrastination will always have an impact on me and I’ll have to work harder to complete tasks. :/ I guess grad school will be the real measure of that.

    P.s. Congrats on your certification! That’s fantastic news!

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    • Thank you, Melanie, for your kind words about certification. 🙂 as to the story, I think it surfaced because I’ve been thinking about completions a lot. It was the first conscious awareness of the importance of completions. I don’t even like the story because there was an element of oppression in it, but I had an a-ha moment that might have played a role in the development of my character. As to cleaning these days…. I won’t say too much on the subject except for thank God I don’t live in Azerbaijan anymore 🙂

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  4. Congratulations dear Gulara! Wish you luck with this new project 🙂
    And about that bucket..I think I would have left it on purpose, every time that aunt came over hahaha
    Enjoy the rest of your weekend, XxX

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