Earlier this week I wrote about Receiving Feedback Gracefully. The support I received from all of you was phenomenal. Thank you for all the comments and sharing your own experiences with me. Writing can be so lonely at times and it’s reassuring to know how many of us are in the same boat. Sharing with each other allows us to offer support, because we understand, because we’ve all been there at some point or another.
Today’s compassion meditation is about releasing the pain caused by critique. I’ve compiled a list of compassion phrases from the comments people made in response to my previous post. As I mentioned in my previous posts, these statements are not affirmations. Their purpose is to dissolve any blocks and unhealthy patterns, if any. If you say a phrase and there’s no resonance, that’s OK. There’s no harm in giving yourself compassion. And if something else is coming up for you, feel free to change the words.
If you prefer to read the statements, please take a couple of breaths to ground yourself, bring your attention to your heart-centre and solar plexus, and give yourself warm heart energy, while reading out the statements (preferably out loud).
- I’m so sorry receiving feedback can be so painful
- I’m so sorry you struggle to receive constructive criticism
- I’m so sorry you take it personally
- I’m so sorry that some comments sting
- I’m so sorry you focus on the negative comments and ignore the positive ones
- I’m so sorry you feel disappointed and annoyed by feedback sometimes
- I’m so sorry you feel defensive, at least initially
- I’m so sorry you feel upset and no good at writing after receiving feedback
- I’m so sorry that after receiving feedback, you even consider quitting writing sometimes
- I’m so sorry that feedback is like a full blown attack of marines on your ego
- I’m so sorry that feedback is such a hard pill to swallow.
- I’m so sorry you feel deflated knowing that there’s still a lot of work to do
- I’m so sorry you are daunted by revisions
- I’m so sorry you hate and dread criticism
- I’m so sorry that constructive criticism feeds your self-doubts.
That’s it for now. Take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth; bring your attention to your feet on the ground; and have a glass of water as soon as possible.
So, how was it? Let me know below, please.
P.S. If compassion technique resonates with you, I’m offering a big discount on 1:1 services until 5 September 2016. All details are here.