How your biggest wounds can turn into your greatest gifts



The other day I was in a session with one of my wonderful clients. We were moving quite a lot of heavy stuck energy.

‘It feels lighter now,’ I said after we sat in silence for a few minutes while she was processing.

‘How do you know?!’ she exclaimed.

This wasn’t the first time I’ve been asked that question.

‘I don’t know. I just feel it.’

But of course, I do know. It just wasn’t appropriate to share it at the time. But it got me thinking about this topic.

You see, I grew up in a violent household. For years, I prided myself on the fact that unlike the rest of my family members, I’ve never been beaten up (OK, I had two hard slaps across my face from my grandma, which still make my face tingle when I remember those incidents, but it’s as nothing as to what everyone else had experienced).

The way I did it was to feel people’s mood.

It wasn’t a conscious decision. It was simply self-preservation. Over the years, I got so skilled at this survival technique so that I could tell what people wanted before they knew it.

When I left home, I took the skill with me. It came in handy in dysfunctional relationships I had for a while. To stay safe, I constantly ‘palpated’ people’s energies (which is pretty exhausting, to be honest and kept me hyperalert). I wasn’t even aware I was doing it. For years, I thought it was being considerate and empathetic towards people. I didn’t think much of it, and, at times, felt frustrated when people didn’t reciprocate.

It’s only when I trained as the Compassion Key master facilitator, I started putting this gift to good use. I honed my ability to feel people’s energetic blocks, and can tell how people feel on the other end of the line in the UK, Australia or the US.

Can you relate? Perhaps, you channelled your wounds into poems or writing prose. Perhaps, you are a better parent, because you know how it feels to be on the receiving end of feeling hurt. Perhaps, you help others heal in your own way.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
― Rumi

You are not your wound; its job was to open you to your own light. Let your light shine. It’s time.

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4 thoughts on “How your biggest wounds can turn into your greatest gifts

  1. Dear Gulara,
    Thank you for sharing this, I can completely relate to “palpating” other people’s moods. I actually want to write more about this as a subject myself in an essay or book form. I like to describe it as having an extra sensor, like a red ribbon or an antennae sticking out of your head, something very sensitive and, at times, extremely painful to have, though not always. Like you, I also grew up in a violent household and I avoided getting the brunt of the violence in the same way you did by sensing and managing my parent’s emotional health. Having to do this already as very small children, we know how horrific, stressful and anxiety producing it is. I used to suffer from panic attacks and depression. Over a lot of time and therapy I was able to heal as an adult, but I still have the “sensor” and I can’t get rid of it completely. It is also the main source of my art. Your post really touched me. I know we are not alone.

    I would like to include your blog in my Links & Friends Page, I would love to share such a valuable, insightful and compassionate blog such as yours.


    • Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I’m sorry to hear about stress and anxiety that you carried. I know for myself it’s hard to shake those feelings off. Healing them really helps, and i feel this ‘sensor’ is part of me now. I’m so grateful that the post resonated with you and happy for you to share it. And please write that book. So many people need to read it. With love, Gulara

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  2. Hi dear Gulara,
    Read about this in your newsletter this morning and I can resonate with this again. It is indeed a helpful skill 🙂 I remember during a study about energy and the way it can be used, the teacher told about the importance of being aware of negative energy also and how to block yourself from it. Apparently, I am good in taking away negative energy around people. If you ever feel you can’t shake of a clients energy, let me know, ok?
    Anyways, hope all is well with you and your loved ones. Big hug, XxX


    • Thank you for reading and commenting, Patty. It’s good to know about your skills to remove negative energy. All is well over here. Marking exams, so busier than normal but not for long. Have a wonderful week ahead. ❤️

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