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Childhood trauma sabotage

As I’ve been pondering the question of self-sabotage, I reached out to my writerly community and asked for their take on this subject. I had so many brilliant responses that I have enough material for another ten posts. But one answer captured my approach to...

What Happens When Things Go Well

I have a client who had quite a strong belief that when things went well, something bad was bound to happen.I must admit, I used to resonate with that belief. My upbringing was full of superstitions and one of them was ‘Don’t laugh too much or you’d cry.’ Why? Who...

Disempowering beliefs and what to do with them

‘I don’t have time to write.’ ‘I’m not a ‘real’ writer.’ ‘It’s too self-indulgent to write.’ Sounds familiar? These are disempowering beliefs you carry around. Sadly, they often become self-fulfilling. Somehow, as humans, we’d rather be right than happy. So, when you...

Help! I don’t have time to write!

My first ever client came to me because she didn’t have time to write. She had two young kids, and while she didn’t have a job to go to, her duties around the house and childcare ate up all of her time. So I asked: what would happen if you did have time to write? All...

What’s the worst that can happen?

In January of last year, I decided to slim down and gain lightness in my physical body. Having two kids and breastfeeding for a long time wasn’t good for my self-discipline and I used to eat way too many cakes. So, I started a new regime of eating, and it worked....

Finding a Perfect Home

About two years ago, I was working with an amazing client. She is a high-achiever and holds herself to the highest possible standards. She was house-hunting at the time, and the process was quite painful. It brought up a lot of insecurities; there were some setbacks...

What Does Perfection Give You?

14 July 2010, Birmingham, England. It’s getting dark outside, and I’m sitting in front of a screen in a computer cluster for PhD students. Tomorrow I have to hand in my thesis, and this is my last chance to spot any typos or mistakes. And suddenly I find one. It sends...

Reflections on Dogs and Feelings

One of my favourite activities in life is walking in nature. When my kids are off school, we spend a lot of time outdoors in local parks. Inevitably, we meet dogwalkers. Most dogs here are friendly, and I had a period when my son wanted to pet every single dog in the...

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