When was the first time you felt you were not good enough?
Let me tell you about my experience.
I’m six and I enter our kitchen. My mum is there with slit wrists, black rivers running down her fingers and two puddles of blood on the floor. I scream, and my grandparents come rushing in and take her to hospital. Her wrists are stitched up and she’s fine.
But I’m not.
In that moment, I felt I wasn’t worth living for. At some level I blamed myself for what she’s done and decided that somehow I wasn’t good enough.
That’s what children do. They take on beliefs to make sense of the world around them.
Except it doesn’t stop there. Once you have a belief, you start searching for evidence that it’s true all around you.
I’m no exception, and I could see the proof all around me.
At school I was a really hard-working pupil. But there was this girl in my class who did a little bit better than me. OK, sometimes, a lot better. So, no matter how hard I tried, I just never felt good enough.
The pattern then repeated itself in higher education, employment, relationships, and even motherhood.
My solution was to seek better qualifications and opportunities. Except even getting a PhD in law from one of the best universities in the UK (without a single correction) didn’t make me feel better about myself. I still didn’t feel good enough.
Until I stopped and started to heal that core wounding. And that’s when my life started to transform.
You have a choice: you can deal with the symptoms of not feeling good enough by gaining better qualifications, finding new relationships or changing your career. Or you can heal your core wounding.
And this is where I come in. I can help you to heal it.
Because I know that you are good enough exactly as you are.
Heal that wound, and you will know that too.